Versus doing the regular go-to stress relief of tensing your body to get that orgasmic dopamine hit in your day, dedicate time for you to learn to relax your body while building up arousal instead. Doing so will limit the chances of erectile issues later on in life.
Our society isn’t running at the slow moving pace anymore where there is a healthy amount of relaxation and stress-free living. In these modern times, it’s hustle culture grasping at far reaches to return back to simplicity but with very little success because of the mass amount of distractions being used to numb out, versus attuning into oneself in the moment.
On top of that, depression from a lack of fulfillment in life is skyrocketing, making people turn to SSRI’s (anti-depressants) and the use of viagra that affect sexual virility & stamina.
People turn on netflix instead of doing the things that will actually nourish and create vitality & wellness in their body, and they end up turning to porn for a quick stress relief (or because it’s more easier than investing time and energy into dating and having to deal with the potential melodramas of others on top of an already busy schedule).
So what ends up happening because of this?
You watch 10 minutes of porn or find the quickest way to ejaculate so that you can focus on your tasks for the day. This usually involves tensing your body (especially your pelvis and lower half of the body) in order to stimulate enough sensation for that release.
What this is doing is actually imprinting a pattern of stimulation in your body’s cellular memory so that it makes it challenging to experience sexual pleasure in any other way. And if you end up doing this enough times in the same way for an extended period of time, it can lead to early life occurrences of losing your erections, or the experience of your partner not being able to help get you off because your body is patterned and used to the way that you do it in a way that feels “striving” and tension building.
Our nervous systems are automatically in an underlying state of hypertension or apathy which further disconnects from the aspects of life and wellbeing that enhances our ability to connect with life force energy, let alone things that promote a fulfilling pleasurable experience.
And when I speak of life force here, I’m referring to what the Tantrics would regard as the life giving energy that keeps you THRIVING versus just SURVIVING day to day. That sense of thriving links to our sexuality and the ways our body can live up to that sexual vitality.
So the next time you notice yourself tensing your body while masturbating, ask yourself if there’s one part of your body that you can relax a bit more so that you can begin to re-pattern new neural pathways of pleasure in your experience to promote sexual virility that will benefit you for the rest of your life.
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