In the Taoist philosophy, the way to awaken and open a woman’s desire is through her heart.
Just like the positive (+) and negative (-) circuits in a battery, the energetics of an individual’s arousal is similarly so. In Taoism, it is mentioned that the “positive” magnetic pole to charge up a woman’s sexual arousal is through her heart. Whereas the “positive” magnetic pole to open a man’s heart is through his cock & sexual arousal.
So unlike what most men think, they immediately will focus on trying to pleasure a woman through her sexual energy and arouse her in order to make a connection – but this is the opposite of what needs to happen. By focusing on her sexuality first, you actually create the potential for her to shut down, turn her off, or even influence her to override her own boundaries of what she TRULY desires deep inside.
Sure some women want sex first, they want to feel the heat and burst of chemistry and passion – but this can be short lived and can form entanglements or drama within your dating dynamics later on.
Since a woman’s magnetic pole is in her heart, it’s actually the HEART & the emotional connection that will open up a woman’s sexual desire to the utmost potential of extraordinary pleasure. If you think that asking her on a date and immediately being driven by your desire for her to get into bed is going to give her (you both) the most pleasure that is possible – you’re mistaken.
You need to begin her day with mental and emotional foreplay so that her mind & heart are open and connected which will then translate to her body and her pussy opening up to receive pleasure.
Now, I know what you’re probably thinking, why would you want to offer mental and emotional foreplay when you’re not interested in being in a relationship with her? You’re not wanting to lead her on when your intentions aren’t to, right?
Here’s the thing, you can STILL be honest and upfront about what your intentions are with her in regards to not wanting to be in a relationship in your life right now or with her in general – and simultaneously be able to tease and give attention to the emotional and mental aspects of connection and dating. Doing both these things gives her a realistic perspective on how she can gauge and take self responsibility of her emotions so that it minimises potential drama or entanglements later on in the connection. This also gives way for the opportunity to have intimate and erotic experiences with each other that doesn’t end up feeling empty or dissatisfying in the end.
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